- Written by Damien
Something to celebrate!
Deciding to get married is a great decision for both of you - and for your families and friends. The Church wants to rejoice with you in your commitment to each other. This decision is the most important one in your life, as you resolve to give yourself to each other for always. This is not something you have decided lightly and it is right that we should all celebrate this decision of yours.
By choosing to get married in Church, you are saying some very clear things about how you understand marriage. By Baptism you have become part of Christ's people, in marriage, Christ blesses your commitment and strengthens you by a special sacrament so that you can undertake the privileges and responsibilities of marriage.
Your wedding day will always be very special. It is the day that sanctifies your love that has grown together over time. It is also the day that you make a commitment for the future and all that it brings. The Catholic Church sees Christian marriage as exclusive, for always and as the normal place for raising a family. These are very important matters to undertake, that is why we want to support and encourage you in this great undertaking, and that is why prayer should always be part of this decision.
A time for preparation
All the important events in life need preparation, so that we make sure that everything is clear and everything goes as we hope. As the beginning of your married life together, your wedding ceremony will need careful preparation, but so will preparing for life together. Your commitment to each other will be without qualification and for always, and that needs some reflection if it is to be made seriously. We hope that we can help you to do that.
In order to ensure that all the appropriate preparation, paperwork and booking has enough time we ask for at least six months notice for your wedding.
Music and Flowers
You are welcome to provide your own organist and flower arrangers if you like. These will be guided by the priest on what is appropriate for St Margaret Mary's Church. If you prefer, we can arrange for an organist and flower arrangers from the parish at modest cost.
When both partners are committed members of the Church, it is good to celebrate the wedding with a Nuptial Mass. For others, a simpler wedding service can be arranged.
You will need to choose suitable readings and music for your wedding. It is always good to involve members from both families in the service, and you can do this by asking them to be involved in the readings, prayers and so forth. All this will be discussed with the priest who will celebrate the marriage, and there will be plenty of opportunity to discuss many other things if you wish. It is most important that you feel very comfortable and content with the wedding ceremony itself. Rehearsals and all else will certainly be arranged with you.
There are certain legal fees for the Registration of your marriage. It is also usual to make a donation to the Church and the priest presiding at your wedding.